Do you have a hard time finding childcare? Do you need just a few hours of care a week but there doesn't seem to be an option for you? Are you scared to put your kid in daycare because you don't know if they're being cared for? Are you paying an arm and leg for it? Host Lindsay Aerts discusses some of these childcare dilemmas with Tracy Gruber, Utah's Director of the Office of Childcare with Department of Workforce Services. They discuss why childcare is so expensive, how to find quality child care, the need for it to be accessible and not so costly, how to find the right childcare, and how solutions to quality, affordable childcare need to be a community problem with community solutions, not just a mom's problem to figure out.
Playing with your kids might feel like something you're supposed to do. Host Lindsay Aerts discusses why it's not realistic for a mom to be to sole source of your child's entertainment with researcher and University of Utah Professor Alisa Van Langeveld. She says ultimately playing is about connection, and she's developed a method called 10 minutes together: one-on-one time with each child 10 minutes a day. The two discuss how doing this one thing every day will help your child fell valued and important, and doing it means you can let go of the guilt you feel over not loving playing with your kids.
We've all been there, first time pregnant women looking into the unknown future of motherhood. Host Lindsay Aerts looks back with Ashley Moser of KSL 5 TV on her fears and excitements about becoming a mom now that it's been a year since she became one. Ashley was a guest in March of 2018 when she was 20 weeks pregnant. Now her son is one and Lindsay plays back for Ashley those things she was scared of at the time to find out what the reality is like. They talk about the birth, getting an epidural, how her marriage relationship changed, going back to work, and when parenting styles differ.
Many parents struggle with knowing how to talk to their kids about sex. Some might be afraid that talking to them about it is going to make them want to do it more, or give them information they don't need. Shifting away from creating shame around sex to creating healthy integration for our kids is the message of Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a sex therapist who teaches courses for parents on this. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with her about the messages you may be sending your kids around sexuality and gives an age appropriate guide of what you should be addressing with your kids.
In today's world it can be scary to think about our kids being sexually abused but there are some things we as parents we need to be doing to protect them. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a sex therapist who works primarily with members of the Church of Jesus-Christ of Latter-Day Saints about teaching your kids that their body is their own, how to know the difference between kids being kids and abuse, how to know when some one feels off, and some of the characteristics of predators. Find more information on Dr. Fife and her relationship courses by visiting her website.
Despite it being 2019, many women are working through the balance of trying to figure out if they should work or stay home with their kids. While logically we know women can work if they want to, the struggle of trying to figure out if you should work or stay home is real for many. Women have long been socialized to believe that being home and caring for their kids is what they "should" do and yet cultural beliefs have shifted much more towards everyone choosing for themselves. Host Lindsay Aerts works through her own struggles of finding the balance of staying home and working with Dr. Julie Hanks of Wasatch Family Therapy. You can find tickets to Dr. Hanks' TedXOgden talk on The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood here.
It seems like almost every parents desire is to have kids who listen. Sometime when kids don't listen we feel like we're doing something wrong, or the kids are misbehaved. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with parent educator Georgia Anderson of www.Knowhowmom.com about why getting kids to listen is more about connection than simply obeying. They discuss showing respect for your child the same way you would to another adult if you were asking them to do something for you.
Kids fight. Sometimes more than we we would like. While it can drive you crazy, it's not necessarily a bad thing. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with parent educator Georgia Anderson who says the fighting is actually healthy for development. She gives tips for what you can do when they fight, and why you should focus on what's happening when they're NOT fighting as the clue to how their relationship is developing.
Host Lindsay Aerts poses the question of whether or not it's appropriate to ask a new mom if she's experiencing a mental health issue after giving birth. Some moms find it inappropriate to ask so bluntly. Some wish they would have been asked. Lindsay thinks there should not be a hard and fast rule of always yes or always no to this question and shares her experience being asked several times about her postpartum issues. She's joined by Brook Dorff, Maternal Mental Health Specialist with Utah's Health Department.
The Utah health department is creating a website where you can find the information of every provider who specializes in help for maternal mental health issues in one central location. The resource and referral website will have at least 250 trained postpartum-specific professionals where both the women who are experiencing postpartum mood disorders and their doctors can access it. The Utah state legislature granted an appropriations request for maternal mental health resources this last legislative session and host Lindsay Aerts talks with the Health Department's Maternal Mental Health Specialist, Brook Dorff about the details of using some of the money to create this website.
Climb Out of the Darkness is the world's largest event raising funds and awareness for the mental health of new families. It's happening on June 22nd in Salt Lake City at Memory Grove Park, and in Ogden at South Ogden Nature Park And Splash Pad. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with the Utah Health Department's maternal mental health Specialist, Brook Dorff about why it's so important for women who are have experienced a postpartum mood disorder to come hike.
Intermountain healthcare has announced they will screen all new moms who give birth at one of their hospitals for postpartum mood disorders. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with Jean Millar, Director of the Women and Newborn Clinical program at Intermountain Healthcare about what the hospital group is doing to screen, treat, and educate their providers about postpartum mood disorders.
Host Lindsay Aerts talks with Lynn Ward, Executive Director of Utah's 529 plans. These plans are sponsored by the state and designed to encourage saving for college. Lindsay talks with Lynn about why they're important, how to get started saving in one, what education related expenses you can use the money for, the penalties for taking your money out, and much more. Visit my529.org for more information or start one.
These days it seems like you can hire just about anyone to do just about anything you don't want to do and that includes parenting duties like potty training, planning birthday's, or homework. Some say that's neglecting your duties as a parent while others welcome the help. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with her guest, author Ganel-Lyn Condie about a recent USA today article on the topic and why she things hiring out your parenting duties IS taking care of your kids.
What's the difference between joy and happiness? They are similar feelings but joy takes the long view where as happiness can come from experiencing things outside of ourselves that make it easier to be happy in the moment. That's the definition from my guest, Ganel-Lyn Condie who authored a new book I Can Choose Joy with God. She talks about how to feel joy when you're in the throws of motherhood. She talks about how to teach our kids this concept.
This bonus episode really has little to do with motherhood but the life lessons learned from finding out you have a terminal illness can helps us all. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with her co-worker and producer for the JayMac News Show, Morgan Pratt who was recently diagnosed with Huntington's disease. Huntington's disease (HD) is a progressive brain disorder caused by a defective gene. This disease causes changes in the central area of the brain, which affect movement, mood and thinking skills. Morgan talks about how she's coping with her illness, how close researchers are to finding a cure, how she continues to find hope, and how you can help support the cause. To learn more visit http://utah.hdsa.org/.
Host Lindsay Aerts talks with well known international maternal mental health expert, Karen Kleiman about what needs to change within our communities, healthcare, and society for new moms to get better postpartum care. Karen has been seeing postpartum women for over 30 years in her clinical practice. She is the author of 11 books on postpartum mood disorders, she writes both from the patient and clinical treatment perspective. She also helped thousands of women heal through her own clinical practice. She is based outside of Philadelphia where she founded and is the Executive Director of the Postpartum Stress Center. Her new book is called Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts.
Host Lindsay Aerts talks with well known international maternal mental health expert for over 30 years, Karen Kleiman about her new book Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts. They talk about what scary thoughts are, how 91% of moms have these unwanted, intrusive thoughts after having a baby and yet they're not often talked about. Lindsay and Karen discuss why they happen and when to be concerned that you need professional help. Karen Kleiman is the author of 11 books on postpartum mood disorders, she writes both from the patient and clinical treatment perspective. She also helped thousands of women heal through her own clinical practice. She is based outside of Philadelphia where she founded and is the Executive Director of the Postpartum Stress Center.
Mother's Day can be a mixed bag of emotions. Some mom's love to be celebrated by their kids and partners. Some moms struggle with feelings of loneliness, pain, or loss. And others, may be feeling underappreciated or like they simply want a break on Mother's Day. Whichever camp you tend to fall into, host Lindsay Aerts talks with maternal mental health expert, and author of Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts, Karen Kleiman about what mom's really need on this day. Karen Kleiman is a well known international maternal mental health expert for over 30 years. She has authored 11 books on postpartum mood disorders and how to treat them. She also helps women heal through her clinical practice. She is based outside of Philadelphia where she founded and is the Executive Director of the Postpartum Stress Center.
Host Lindsay Aerts discusses the idea that we all tend to have this notion of an ideal mother in our heads who we're comparing ourselves to. We often see moms portrayed as perfect, as loving the job, as completely fulfilled by taking care of their kids, as all-self sacrificing and it's hurting us to compare ourselves to this idealized version of motherhood. She also talks about how motherhood is often romanticized, meaning it's portrayed as sunshine and rainbows through movies and TV. When our realities are not matching this ideal we're left feeling like failures. Her guest Monia Ashton, Director of Maternal Mental Health at The Healing Group helps illustrate what we can do to stop idealizing and romanticizing motherhood.
Helping our daughter find and strengthen their self-esteem is something most, if not all moms want. Often it can feel like our daughters are getting bombarded with messages about everything from the way they look to the way they're supposed to act. Host Lindsay Aerts talks with Melisa Osmond about her event, Power in You geared toward mom's and their teens, tweens, and young daughters that will help fortify them and discover the power within themselves to believe they are of worth. They discuss teaching your daughter's self-esteem the same way you would to say please and thank you, by reminding them frequently! They discuss the power of affirmations and gratitude in building self-confidence.
Motherhood can feel so lonely at times. Not in the sense that we have no friends, or no one to talk with, but in the sense that we often believe no one is experiencing motherhood the way we are. Host Lindsay Aerts discusses some of the reasons she thinks motherhood feels so isolating, and what to do about it. She talks about how many of us fear the judgement of other people when it comes to how we parent so we retreat, so as to not face that judgement. It comes from society, from other mothers, from the internet, from our own unrealistic idealized expectations of what it means to be a good mom. She talks about how we don't live communally anymore, and that can make it hard to find connection. She talks about how to define what it means to be a good mom and why that's so important.
There's one right way to parent. You must love motherhood. Mom guilt comes with the job. What you see on social media is reality. These are just a few of the myths that host Lindsay Aerts discusses with her guest, fellow radio host Carly Cash. They share how some of these myths have left them feeling guilt, shame, and alone in motherhood. There's one right way to parent. You must love motherhood. Mom guilt comes with the job. What you see on social media is reality. These are just a few of the myths that host Lindsay Aerts discusses with her guest, fellow radio host Carly Cash. They share how some of these myths have left them feeling guilt, shame, and alone in motherhood.
April is child abuse prevention month and host Lindsay Aerts talks with the National Center on Shaken Baby Syndrome about child abuse prevention. Their campaign, play for prevention, encourages parents to get out and play with their kids. Ryan Steinbeagle talks with host Lindsay Aerts about their event inside FanX Salt Lake. Tickets are available here: https://fanxsaltlake.com/tickets/. Play for Prevention is partnering with FanX® to celebrate kids through engagement and play with various activities and games in the KidCon area at the April 19 – 20, 2019 event at the Salt Palace Convention Center. Lindsay also talks with JoAnne Otten, Utah Grandmother of Shaken Baby Syndrome/ Infant Abusive Head Trauma survivor “Miley” and the driving force behind Miley’s Law, the law behind Utah’s new online Child Abuse Registry, named after JoAnn’s granddaughter who suffered from shaken-baby syndrome in 2013 at the hands of her biological father. JoAnn is affectionately nicknamed “Mad Grandma” by her by a local chapter of Bikers Against Child Abuse. She was the driving force for the measure and has been determined to help protect all children, after her granddaughter was abused as an infant.
Have you been "mom" for so long, you're not quite sure who you are without that title? Maybe you love that title and wouldn't trade it, but you feel like you've lost a piece of yourself while trying to care for your littles? Do you want to know how to get it back? Host Lindsay Aerts talks with parent educator and influencer Lisa Anderson of Thriving Motherhood about how to rediscover yourself if you're feeling a little lost in motherhood.